Today I was waiting in line for lunch at the cafeteria when a group of boys started pointing a laser at my breasts. For a moment, I tried to ignore them. I was wearing a short dress and my breasts are a bit larger than most peoples, so in a low cut shirt, they are more noticeable (but they were not so noticeable as to pop out of my dress). I played it off cool and ignored them. Then they started making comments about me, saying very inappropriate things about what they wanted to do to me and continued to point the laser at me.
I dropped everything and snapped. Putting my backpack down, I walked directly over to them, FUMING with a red face and immediately went off on them. I started out calm and polite, saying “How dare you treat me like I’m some walking, talking sex that is simply standing there for the pleasure of you to look at.” “Shame on you for degrading me and acting like I’m just a walking pair of tits.” “This is the epitome of a misogyny.”
They stared at me for a long moment, some of them trying to hold back a laugh as one then got up, holding up his hands as he proceeded to nod, apologizing for his actions and extending his arms. He seemed as though he was actually, genuinely sorry, so I nodded, thanking him as he then asked if he could hug me for standing up for myself. When I went in for a hug, he proceeded to grab my ass, going INTO my dress.
I pushed him away, and FREAKED OUT. I couldn’t hold back my foul language anymore—I was absolutely livid. I was swearing up a storm, screaming at the top of my lungs, making a scene (which I know is immature, but I was so angry I couldn’t help it) as people turned heads and teachers and security began to approach us. I went on, and on, pulling out every what reason as to why rape culture continues to exist because of their actions, to which I believe the one who hugged me got offended as he then called me a “motherfucking dumb cunt, stupid whore, fucking bitch,” etc.
Of course, I kept going. I can’t stand when people insult me in such a degrading manner. I got in his face, pushing his boundaries, saying that the way I’m pushing on his personal space is nowhere near compared to that of how men treat women as walking, talking sexual organs.
Then he tried to hit me. He grabbed my arm with one hand, raising the other to what I assume was to smack me in the face, so I immediately raised my arm and punched him in the nose.
At that point, security and teachers pulled us apart and I was still screaming at him, and he was screaming at me, too.
When teachers finally pulled me out of the cafeteria, they immediately started blaming ME. “You should have ignored him.”
Yes, maybe I could have, but when I first initially walked up to them, I was playing nice. Then he sexually harassed me.
They continued to dismiss the entire situation as “boys will be boys”, so I immediately retorted with “Well then girls will be girls.” To which they immediately shook their heads and laughed at me. Then one of the security guards had the audacity to turn and say to me, “Maybe you shouldn’t have worn such a suggestive attire.”
I lost it. I started to scream at this man, yelling at him for once again objectifying my body as if it’s some piece of ass that must be covered up at all times because males are not responsible for controlling themselves.
Finally, when they realized how upset that I was, they immediately reeled back, apologized, but they are still not going to punish those men for sexually harassing me, as they still believe I asked for it. They did, however, decide not to suspend me for hitting him because they knew that I was not going to let this go.
I have never been so fed up before. This is ridiculous. Once again, these fucking idiots are getting away with mistreating women and the victim gets blamed furthermore, and to shut them up they just decide not to take any further action.
They didn’t even ask me to write a statement.
UPDATE: When I went to my next class after, I talked to my teacher about it and she escorted me to the security office and defended me until police were brought in. I then made a statement to the police and now they are going to take care of the situation.
Please share to show that misogyny and victim blaming still exists. This is why I need feminism.